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The One With The Lesbian Wedding
Season 2, Episode 11
Air date 18 January 1996
Written by Doty Abrams
Directed by Thomas Schlamme
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"The One With the Lesbian Wedding" is the eleventh episode of season two of the television situation comedy Friends. It attracted mild controversy and censorship as a result of its portrayal of same-sex marriage. The episode first aired on January 18, 1996.

[edit] Plot[]

Ross' ex-wife Carol (Jane Sibbett) announces her plans to marry her lesbian life partner Susan (Jessica Hecht); Ross' sister Monica caters the wedding. Carol's parents refuse to attend the wedding, leading Carol to doubt her decision, but Ross finds himself in the position of being the one to encourage her to go ahead with the ceremony despite their opposition.

Joey makes his first appearance on the long running soap opera Days of Our Lives as Dr. Drake Ramoray.

One of Phoebe's massage clients, Rose Adelman, dies on the massage table and her spirit gets stuck in Phoebe.

Meanwhile, Rachel's mother Sandra (Marlo Thomas) makes a major life decision after seeing how Rachel has learned to fend for herself: she is divorcing Rachel's father.

[edit] Reception[]

As a result of its portrayal of a lesbian couple marrying, the episode attracted some controversy across the United States. Two network affiliates refused to air the episode - KJAC-TV in Port Arthur, Texas and WLIO in Lima, Ohio - citing objectionable content, although the decision drew little press attention, partly due to the small size of the markets in question.[1] Gay and lesbian groups - notably GLAAD - decried the censorship of the episode.[2] While the episode was one of the first mainstream portrayals of gay marriage on US television, it was the second gay marriage on a sitcom that season; the show Roseanne had aired an episode just five weeks before called "December Bride" in which the title character coordinated a wedding for her co-worker Leon and his lover Scott. The New York Times claimed "The biggest news about the wedding on Friends was that it was almost no news at all." However, the fact that Carol and Susan's ceremony was officiated by Candace Gingrich, a gay-rights activist and sister to conservative Speaker of the House of Representatives Newt Gingrich did draw some media attention, as the casting was perceived as a comment on the Republican Party's anti-gay rights stance and the "Contract with America" platform.[1] A writer with the Associated Press noted in an article that week that the ceremony would not include a kiss by the newlyweds, including the episode as part of an observed trend of portrayals of gay characters while skirting controversy by avoiding or minimizing physical contact.[3]

The episode was the highest rated television program for the week with 31.6 million viewers.[4] According to Marta Kauffman, 'NBC expected thousands and thousands of phone calls and hate mail' but actually received only four complaints by telephone.[5]